Truth be Told

Blog_Lance_Armstrong_Tour_de_Gruene_2008-11-01Remember the story of Pinocchio: the little boy whose nose grew longer whenever he lied?  Or the antics of Jim Carey in the ‘90s classic film “Liar Liar,” where he plays Fletcher Reede, a fast-talking lawyer who has built his career on a bed of lies? After Reede’s son makes a birthday wish that his dad stop lying, Jim Carey is suddenly only able to tell the truth and his world is turned upside down.  Or perhaps you’re a fan of the current hit TV Drama,  “Suits?”  Acknowledged for its fashion flair, it focuses on the legal partnership between flashy lawyer Harvey—and and his legal assistant Mike—who professes to be a Harvard law grad but never even attended any law school. Mike’s just really smart.  So the two tolerate the “big lie” for convenience sake.

Another film focused on the drama around lies is “Autumn in New York” starring Wynonna Ryder and Richard Gere. Ryder’s character has an uncanny ability to sense when someone’s lying (sort of like parents and teachers).  For them it’s not magic, it comes with practice. My mother used to say she saw it in our eyes and all over our faces whenever any of the five boys in our family even tried to stretch the truth, never mind offer up an outlandish false tale. I’m sure our students have similar relationships with parents at home.

I mention this today because no matter what our students are studying in school, each is essentially always seeking the truth, for in truth there is deeper understanding.   What’s the correct answer to a problem?  What’s the right thing to do, morally?  In schools we are driven by the pursuit of truth.

Unfortunately, in our quest for the truth, we all lie. The world demands that we lie to sometimes to protect a friend–and probably most often to protect ourselves.

However, growing up it is natural for children to be “offside” and learn from it.  So little white lies are common to avoid getting caught after breaking a minor rule. Kids are experts at making situations murky and testing boundaries.  It’s a time-tested strategy of generations of children and teenagers.

Philosophers have long-debated the notion of the so-called “just lie.” For example, consider all the brave souls who hid Jews from the Nazi Storm Troopers during the Holocaust of the 1930’s. These are serious situations of compassion or personal safety in the face of evil that require dishonesty to achieve a truly just goal.

Sometimes we all tell little “white lies” or we bend the truth.  A close friend shows up in a truly unfortunate new outfit declaring how much she loves it. You may likely quietly agree, not wanting to hurt her feelings. This kind of thing is not considered sinful or outrageous by anyone.

But how about clear omissions or blatant concealment to cover oneself or boost personal image or reputation? How far can the truth be bent before it’s too far? If children or teens get away with it, do they repeat it?  Do they start to believe your own lies?

Unfortunately, we actually have a lot of examples of straight out lying presented to us in society on a regular basis.

The Quebec Charbonneau Commission looking into corruption and payoffs in Montreal has unearthed some very unseemly practices regarding contracts for work in our city—and there has been lots of media coverage about this deceit since the fall.

Also, the sad story of Lance Armstrong is a classic current example of a once-respected role model who has fallen from grace for lying and cheating. I was a big Armstrong fan years ago. I loved his book Not About the Bike, about overcoming cancer and the resiliency of the human spirit. However, just a few weeks ago he was exposed for his years of doping while on the cycling circuit. Even when he appeared on TV with Oprah to fess up publically, he succumbed to blaming others. His rationale that “everyone else was doing it” was a lame excuse. But it’s simply not an acceptable excuse. As a result of his lies, Armstrong has lost all of his seven Tour de France championship titles, along with millions of dollars in lucrative endorsements. Moreover, Armstrong’s  “Live Strong Foundation” for cancer research has taken quite a knock. Most notably though, his situation is not primarily about the money. Armstrong has lost his integrity.  Until his final breath and beyond, he will forever be labeled a deceitful liar.

Writer Eric Hoffer reminds us “when we lie, we lie loudest to ourselves” – about everything from what we spend and eat, to rationalizing our actions, however unattractive or unacceptable to others. For anyone who gets caught in that cycle, how many of your own lies do they start to believe?

The fact is that honesty and trust are the bedrock of strong relationships, whether in one’s family, here at school, among friends, the workplace, and the larger community.

We all depend on trust and honesty to build a sense of integrity over time. Without integrity and trust, the laws of the jungle would dominate.

To Lance Armstrong, to corrupt public officials on the take at city hall, and to students of LCC, I send a reminder: corruption and dishonesty corrodes. Like rust itself, corrosion destroys institutions, people and human relationships.

Yes, sometimes the untruth – the “white lie” – is morally acceptable.  But don’t forget that it is honesty and integrity that binds us together. All human relations depend on the expectation that as a rule, we tell the truth and can have confidence in this as a constant When it comes to the so-called “big lie,” it will always corrode and destroy in a big way.

Let’s do our utmost to set examples by doing our best to seek the truth and defend honesty and integrity as core values at LCC.  – Christopher Shannon, Headmaster

The Power of the Word

I saw something special in his eyes yesterday… something that was not there before.  In a word, I would call it resolve… a kind of confidence by American President Barack Obama to be a little grittier, a little edgier, perhaps a little wiser in the next four years. President Barack Obama has now officially begun his second term in office and analysts are already debating what we might see from Obama 2.0.  On the heels of reading the public opinion tea leaves, I believe Obama will show resolve on gun control—and carry his election mandate for health care, education, the environment and support to the middle class confidently into the messiness of the American political policy arena.

The official inauguration actually took place in the “Blue Room” of the White House on Sunday —January 20th as outlined by law. Yesterday was a repeat of the oath to office that has been uttered by all presidents, but more symbolic and ceremonial… outdoors in Washington on Capital Hill, looking out over what’s called the “Mall” leading down past a host of monuments, museums and statues to the Lincoln Memorial.  Close to a million people are estimated to have attended yesterday’s ceremony.  Events began on Saturday with a National Day of Service, including service by the president and his family at a renovation of a local elementary school.

Obama is the 44th American president and the 20th two-term president. Interestingly, Obama actually won more votes in his second term than any president in the past 50 years. The first since Eisenhower in 1956 to earn at least 51% of voter support in both elections.

A US president’s second term can be challenging, as by law Obama cannot continue beyond this term and politicking will begin in earnest in three years, so he has a short window to affect notable change.

Some critics question the importance of the pomp and circumstance of inauguration days. Yes, I agree it can go overboard, but I believe that the symbolism and the ceremony are actually important. The Americans do this part very well.  But it is also a public display of the peaceful transition of political power: orderly, celebratory—even in the face of great complexity with so many important issues at stake.

In terms of symbolism, note that yesterday’s ceremony occurred 150 years after the emancipation proclamation that freed American slaves and yesterday was also Martin Luther King Day—an American civic holiday—exactly 50 years since the famous civil rights march on Washington under the leadership of Dr. Martin Luther King. Both of those iconic American leaders have been very influential in President Obama’s life and thinking.  For that reason Obama used three bibles for the swearing of the oath of office—the Obama family bible, Lincoln’s bible and Martin Luther King’s Bible— reinforcing Obama’s modern vision and hope for a nation where freedom and equity of opportunity reign.  Also note that Abraham Lincoln (also from Illinois – as is Obama) was a two-term president. During his first inauguration the Capital Dome was unfinished due to the strife of the Civil War between the north & south. Lincoln decided to finish it in the middle of the Civil War – completing it in 1863 as a symbol of the strength of the American Union in difficult times.

There are many unfinished jobs in America, and much of Obama’s speech yesterday stressed the need for belief in possibility, innovation and faith in America’s future. Obama stressed Americans to seize the moment and asked all citizens to define hopes of this generation and capacity for more equality in America and less economic inequality.

Obama chose as Inaugural Poet Laureate Richard Blanco: a gay Cuban immigrant.  Obama asked him to write three poems and Obama chose one entitled  “One Day.”

Blanco says being named poet laureate for the inauguration personally validated and stitched together several ideals against which he long measured America… the essence of the American dream: how a little Cuban-American kid on the margins of mainstream America could grow up with confidence, have the opportunity to become an engineer thanks to the hard work of his parents who could barely speak English, and then go on, choosing to become a poet who was asked to speak to, for and about the entire nation.

I know you all read poetry in your English classes.  So in honour of the power of words, I would like to share Blanco’s inspired poem to his fellow citizens and the world:

—Chris Shannon, Headmaster

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One Today

One sun rose on us today, kindled over our shores,
peeking over the Smokies, greeting the faces
of the Great Lakes, spreading a simple truth
across the Great Plains, then charging across the Rockies.
One light, waking up rooftops, under each one, a story
told by our silent gestures moving behind windows.
 
My face, your face, millions of faces in morning’s mirrors,
each one yawning to life, crescendoing into our day:
pencil-yellow school buses, the rhythm of traffic lights,
fruit stands: apples, limes, and oranges arrayed like rainbows
begging our praise. Silver trucks heavy with oil or paper — bricks or milk, teeming over highways alongside us,
on our way to clean tables, read ledgers, or save lives — to teach geometry, or ring up groceries as my mother did
for twenty years, so I could write this poem.
 
All of us as vital as the one light we move through,
the same light on blackboards with lessons for the day:
equations to solve, history to question, or atoms imagined,
the “I have a dream” we keep dreaming,
or the impossible vocabulary of sorrow that won’t explain
the empty desks of twenty children marked absent
today, and forever. Many prayers, but one light
breathing color into stained glass windows,
life into the faces of bronze statues, warmth
onto the steps of our museums and park benches 
as mothers watch children slide into the day.
 
One ground. Our ground, rooting us to every stalk
of corn, every head of wheat sown by sweat
and hands, hands gleaning coal or planting windmills
in deserts and hilltops that keep us warm, hands
digging trenches, routing pipes and cables, hands
as worn as my father’s cutting sugarcane
so my brother and I could have books and shoes.
 
The dust of farms and deserts, cities and plains
mingled by one wind — our breath. Breathe. Hear it
through the day’s gorgeous din of honking cabs,
buses launching down avenues, the symphony
of footsteps, guitars, and screeching subways,
the unexpected song bird on your clothes line.
 
Hear: squeaky playground swings, trains whistling,
or whispers across cafe tables, Hear: the doors we open
for each other all day, saying: hello, shalom,
buon giorno, howdy, namaste, or buenos días
in the language my mother taught me — in every language
spoken into one wind carrying our lives
without prejudice, as these words break from my lips.
 
One sky: since the Appalachians and Sierras claimed
their majesty, and the Mississippi and Colorado worked
their way to the sea. Thank the work of our hands:
weaving steel into bridges, finishing one more report
for the boss on time, stitching another wound 
or uniform, the first brush stroke on a portrait,
or the last floor on the Freedom Tower jutting into a sky that yields to our resilience.
 
One sky, toward which we sometimes lift our eyes
tired from work: some days guessing at the weather
of our lives, some days giving thanks for a love
that loves you back, sometimes praising a mother
who knew how to give, or forgiving a father
who couldn’t give what you wanted.
 
We head home: through the gloss of rain or weight
of snow, or the plum blush of dusk, but always — home,
always under one sky, our sky. And always one moon
like a silent drum tapping on every rooftop
and every window, of one country — all of us –
facing the stars
hope — a new constellation
waiting for us to map it,
waiting for us to name it – together.

The Value of Co-Curriculars

2012_2013_Laramie_Project_102In the online edition of the Globe & Mail last week an interesting article appeared with the headline, “Extra-Curriculars Increasingly Seen as Essential to Student Success.”

This article came on the heels of an eight-year study of close to a half-a-million Canadian students, showing a strong positive correlation between student participation in clubs and teams and overall academic success in school.

The article also referred to a study in the USA in 2009 that followed 8,000 students for a decade after completion of high school.  It found that students who participated in clubs and sports went further in university and earned better salaries in their respective chosen professions.

These findings are not surprising.  As a school we have deliberately integrated a host of activities into our daily school experience for decades, knowing that merging  these so-called “extra” activities into your educational experience is actually essential to a well-rounded education, character development, leadership and the ability to team effectively with others.

Not mentioned in the Globe article is the largest study ever conducted with adolescents: the US National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health – data and opinions from 85,000 American students in 1995 and in follow-up research waves until 2008. The study focused on factors that prevent negative outcomes for young people: violence, drug use, early pregnancies, and school dropouts. Only two factors emerged as having a notable impact on diminishing these negative factors:  solid family relationships and/or a strong sense of connection to school.

Note that philosophically, a number of years ago at LCC we changed the designation of “extra-curriculars” to “co-curriculars.”  It might seem insignificant, but we see an important difference. Rather than see activities outside the classroom as “extra,” we see them as complimentary to the academic program and with enormous benefits on academic achievement, character development, self-confidence and improved overall mental health.

All of this is a reminder that teachers are not just professional academics and subject specialists. They care the full development of students. That’s why they offer support to clubs & activities, coach, advise, and guide our students.

In the same issue of the Globe & Mail was news about Ontario teachers’ current “work-to-rule” status. Due to a contract debate with the government, public school teachers across Ontario are currently refusing to coach, supervise clubs and activities.  They are even refusing to write letters of recommendation for universities. It’s a real pity and frustration for tens of thousands of students.

As Headmaster, I take great pleasure seeing student involvement in co-curriculars.  Whether it is arts, athletics, clubs, service or international leadership opportunities, it is often these activities which challenge students most, develop new skills and strengths, and forge important memories from the school experience.

This week’s holiday concerts were great examples of student achievement.  Congratulations to all musicians for making beautiful music: fantastic performances and great teamwork.

And what better example of excellence and creativity in co-curriculars than the LCC Players recent performance of the  “Laramie Project.”  Consider the words of your teachers in follow up emails:

“A marriage between art and social commentary that will cause pause for reflection for all students.”—Mr. Ted Shaw

“A Powerful and courageous piece of theatre.”—Mr. Brian Moore

Our LCC Players could have chosen a light comedy and all their friends would have laughed and moved on.  But the students took the road “less travelled.” They were courageous and as a school community, we have all reflected on Matthew Sheppard and every other student we know who is different from the mainstream.  We have been reminded that we need to invite not exclude – be more open not closed-minded. Thanks for the important reminders and for moving our hearts and souls.

Happy holidays to all! —Chris Shannon, Headmaster

Bullying: Everyone’s Business

Blog_NoBullyBullying is a very important topic that’s receiving a lot of attention, especially on the heels of some highly publicized teen suicides in Canada. LCC is involved in some special research on this topic with leading McGill Professor Shaheen Shariff.  We hope to receive useful feedback later this year.

In coming to grips with bullying, I believe it’s important to first recognize that all people want to do well and be liked. A long time ago, American President Abraham Lincoln referred to this as “the better Angels of our nature,” essentially recognizing the positive in all people. But People don’t always get along and some kids can be downright nasty to others. Why? I think it’s because in addition to having different tastes or preferences, children are also naturally impulsive and lacking in self-control. Sometimes when jealousy or frustration enters the fray, impulsiveness wins and some children and teens exercise influence by acting out against others.

The other day I noticed an interesting quote on the wall just outside our counsellors’ offices:  “Sometimes I have to remind myself that I don’t have to do what everyone else is doing.” So true, but so hard. In addition to succumbing to impulsiveness, the pressure to conform amongst teenagers is strong—and it is sometimes very hard to stand out or stand up for something unique or different. Sometimes when students present a different view or perspective, they invite strong criticism, and even taunting. In the face of this, teachers and parents need to help create environments where our kids have the courage to hold true to their convictions and will not tolerate any form of unwarranted critique.

At LCC we are serious about upholding some core values: respect and diversity. Respect means respect for self first, and for other students, teachers, staff, campus visitors (opponents in athletics especially). It’s the glue that holds together our community.  It’s how students move forward; it’s why they help each other, why teachers reach out and assist. Respect is our foundation.

Diversity—We also celebrate difference at LCC – whether cultural, linguistic, religious or sexual orientation. Students have a right to be different and the right to be themselves, without interference, slander or harassment and certainly no form of bullying is ever acceptable.

As a society, I believe we are more aware and more tolerant of difference than ever before; difference as a strength. However, ignorance still lingers. We do not live in a lily-white world where all is pure. Not all are as accepting as we might hope.

One of the biggest changes in recent years is the online world that teens inhabit. It’s okay for them to have some independence, but some young people use this as cover – and hurl electronic insults about kids they don’t like.

Note that digital harassment is not going away. But we can stand up against it and together help teens from being victims or cowardly hiding behind their computer screens, sending messages they might later regret.

Finally, let’s consider the bully, the bullied and the bystander. Bystanders are those who are in the background – observers. That could be any one of us as a witness at almost any time. Yes, bullying and harassment is everyone’s business.  If you see it happening, make it your business. We need to stand up for each other.

As health educator and motivational speaker Scott Fried said to our our high school students last year, “each student is enough!” Each one is a valuable member of our school community. They need to be able to emerge and to be themselves, without interference.

Respect and celebration of diversity: Let’s make sure we can live and celebrate that ethos every day! No exceptions! –Christopher Shannon, Pre-U ’76

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*** Note, to promote dialogue on respect, difference and anti-bullying, our students are taking to the stage. The Senior School LCC Players have chosen a play based on real-life events and sensitive issues around difference and degrees of acceptance. Come see “The Laramie Project” performed in the Chamandy Auditorium in on December 12 & 13 @ 7 pm.

When It’s OK to Drop the Ball

alex_russell_imageAs a teenager in the 1970s, I remember making a few embarrassing mistakes in high school that led to consequences I didn’t like. My parents never interfered with school discipline. They believed I had “earned” whatever punished came my way. I assure you, I learned from the queasy feeling that formed in my stomach every time I let people down who I respected. In-school punishments also had their intended impact.  Like all young people, I eventually learned to modify my behaviour to avoid unwanted punishments and the unsettling feelings.

We recently hosted Dr. Alex Russell at LCC.  In his address to parents he reminded us that students need to feel the pain of failure.  However, in his practice he sees many parents trying too hard to diminish negative consequences for their children – and soften the blow when their children intersect painfully with the real world. Dr. Russell sent a clear message: not a good idea.

As a psychologist, he has written a book called “Drop the Worry Ball:  Parenting in the Age of Entitlement.” He reminds parents that making mistakes and “facing the music” is an essential part of growing up. Mistakes are an unavoidable and inevitable part of life; stressful and difficult experiences essentially help children to learn how to cope with the rough edges of the world.

In fact, Dr. Russell told parents that the only failure in life that should be avoided is what he calls “catastrophic failure.” All other screw-ups help young people learn from their experiences – so hopefully they will perform better the next time. This is what happens in schools every day. It’s a key part of learning and maturing.

In the words of Dr. Russell, parents need to “drop the worry ball” and children and teenagers need to actually pick up the worry ball – not to become overly-stressed, but to learn how to face consequences of their actions, to navigate the world through progressive independence and the satisfaction that comes from genuine achievement.

So, let’s all try and do our best and see where the worry ball lands. The kids will be all right. –Christopher Shannon, Headmaster